Mean Girls

Mean girls,  I’m sure there was one in every school. These were the girls who paraded themselves around the hallways, criticizing, minimizing and intimidating anyone in their path.  The manipulation and control they had was almost mob-like; they seemed to have so much power. And oh the jealousy and comparison that ruled in the hearts of these girls; it determined who they accepted and who they kept at a safe distance. Drama!

One would hope that after high school these behaviours would change, unfortunately they may only evolve and perpetuate. Social media can feel a lot like “mean girls”.  People see you but pretend not to acknowledge you, they size you up based on your followers and likes. People see who you are affiliated with and decide whether or not you’ll increase their popularity and add value to their circle.

The comparison struggle is real on social media, our hearts may not be prepared for what our eyes will see, and that’s why we need to understand and know our value, our worth before we continue scrolling through pages upon pages of feed.  Why would we need to be validated by others when they may not even understand their own worth? We need to walk out our own unique God-given gifts, talents and purpose and cherish them. It’s then, we can celebrate the gifts and talents of others, while acknowledging that lifting another up is not tearing ourselves down. A woman who knows her worth in Christ is confident enough and not afraid to encourage another woman.

God didn’t create you to be like someone else, He created you to be you. When we start comparing, jealousy grips our heart. It’s an incredibly damaging sin that’s rooted in lies, insecurity, comparison and bitterness.  It’s makes people do all sorts of crazy things.

In a Jesus culture, we don’t have to worry about the “mean girls”, we don’t have to worry about not getting invited to the party. Jesus already has an invitation for us with the letters, V.I.P. on it.  Jesus roams the proverbial hallway of life searching for you, asking about you. And while the “mean girls” in our lives were misguided by their feelings, God determines our worth by His Son Jesus and what He did on the Cross.

If you’re in a season of worrying about what other people think, or are surrounded by people who intimidate, control or manipulate you,  I want to encourage you today! God determines your value, not people. Often times people feel intimidated or threatened by what they see in you, and don’t want you to outshine them. God sees each one of us as shining lights, a beacon lit with unique purpose to shine for Him and do what He’s called us to do on this earth.  He sees us as His beautiful daughters with an incredible amount of potential.

It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in princes. (Psalm 118:8-9)

Slow the scroll. Soak in your worth in Christ through His Word.  Daughter, you are more precious than rubies and your faith more precious than gold. (Proverbs 3:15, 1 Peter 1:7)









  1. Beth Hiebert says:

    So true Maneesha. Love your blog.

    1. Thanks for your continued encouragement and support Beth! 💕

  2. wendy martens says:

    So true, Maneesha…there will always be “mean girls” out and about. Being able to stand firm on the rock, believing that we are His JOY, That’s where our security lies. Such a good reminder!

    1. Ahhhh, yes Wendy! So true! We are HIS JOY!

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